Wishful thinking is the formation of beliefs and making decisions according to what might be pleasing to imagine instead of by appealing to evidence, rationality or reality.
Wishful thinking might be the most underrated self-destructive force on the planet.
I think most people, when they hear the term "wishful thinking," they understand that it's a dangerous thing.
But has there been any great definition of it? Wikipedia's is too weighty to be thought of quickly.
Here's mine: Thinking an effect will or could happen without a cause.
When something isn't as good as you want in your life, it's tempting to just want things to get better. But, it's dangerous to entertain that notion blindly. Hope and faith are amazingly powerful and useful forces, but much better when combined with a bias for action and a little planning.
If you have an outcome you want -- don't just fantasize about the outcome. Think, "What could cause that?" And then start trying that stuff.
Yesterday, we talked about wishful thinking. My definion? "Thinking an effect will or could happen without a cause."
Right away, you might realize some wishful thoughts you have. "I want to lose weight," but you're not changing your diet.
But probably the easiest short-term gain is in identifying something that regularly fails to achieve your desired outcome, but you keep doing it out of wishful thinking.
For me, depending on my sleep schedule and diet, there tend to be certain times of the day that I'm dead useless to do any work unless I make special preparations. Yet, sometimes I'll keep trying to work during those periods and get not a damn thing done, while burning myself out in the process.
I've been trying to recognize that, and replace those times with things like:
As I've been immersing myself in poker, I've been overwhelmed by the parallels with pickup, in theory, practice, and in my experience as a student.
I'm not sure if this is pure coincidence, my mind trying to find a pattern where there's not one, or a genuine underlying pattern that probably extends to other areas of learning.
Pickup is the only other thing I can think of that I learned rapidly and by immersion. I made it my world for a year or two. As a result, I remember the learning process, whereas something like web development I can't really remember because I've been learning gradually.