Yesterday, we talked about wishful thinking. My definion? "Thinking an effect will or could happen without a cause."
Right away, you might realize some wishful thoughts you have. "I want to lose weight," but you're not changing your diet.
But probably the easiest short-term gain is in identifying something that regularly fails to achieve your desired outcome, but you keep doing it out of wishful thinking.
For me, depending on my sleep schedule and diet, there tend to be certain times of the day that I'm dead useless to do any work unless I make special preparations. Yet, sometimes I'll keep trying to work during those periods and get not a damn thing done, while burning myself out in the process.
I've been trying to recognize that, and replace those times with things like:
1. A meeting for a coffee with someone I want to catch up with, where I don't have to be particularly sharp,
2. Totally abstract brainstorming in front of a whiteboard with no other materials (maybe paper, certainly not internet access), to just see if I come up with anything,
3. Lifting weights or going for a swim first, after which I can usually do good work.
But I've gone through periods of weeks, even months, of doing the same stupid routine of trying to grind through sections of the day without a workable gameplan, hoping -- wishing -- that things will go well, knowing damn well that they won't.
Want a huge life gain right now? Sit and think about your last few weeks. I bet there's something you keep repeating that's not producing the desired result. How you could tweak it to do better? Really think on this, do it, it can be huge for killing frustrating off and producing more results.
Right now I feel ok with my "useless" times of the day. It means I sit on the couch and cuddle my little kids. They think it is great.
I'm struggling with the fact that my best writing/working time is my best running time. I can't do them at the same time. Picking is quite hard. I either feel mad at myself for not running (I'm training for a marathon) or I feel frustrated that I wish I got to write more.
From what I know the best path to take to be a morning person is simply to kill all lights 1-2 hours before going to sleep and to eat proteins first thing in the morning. Works for me. Normally I am a constant 10pmto6am sleeper. Lately been sleeping more but those were naps and due to circonstances.
What's cyclothymia? It's a mild form of the docs used to call "manic-depression," but which they re-name periodically. Cyclothymics can actually function decently well, and as such often don't know they've got it. If you cycle through highs and lows, are particularly artistic, or that describes someone you love, then read this post in full and please comment with your own experience. I'm still learning, myself.
AN INTRODUCTION TO CYCLOTHYMIA
Knowing the term "Cyclothymia" would have been very helpful to me a few years ago. This essay is plain English and, if I've done a good job, might help people who associate with a cyclothymic relate better to them, and might help a cyclothymic manage themselves better and produce better.
I'm against the "medical-ization" of life. We need medical terms, but we need to be able to explain things in plain English without labeling. Labeling, by definition, drastically simplifies.
Cyclothymia is simple at its roots, simple enough for a plain discussion without medicalization. Here's how it works for me -
Ah, you there, my Type-A friend. I'm glad you came today. Come in. What would you like? We've got coffees, teas, or clear still water perhaps? No juices at the moment, I'm afraid, I'm not having carbohydrates and it'd be fiddling with the devil to buy juice and then attempt not to drink it. The coffee is good, though, yes?
One moment. I'd like to light the fireplace. Maybe it's technically Spring, but this "Spring" in West Germany is chilly and cold and damp and grey, right down into the bones. But pardon me, I'm near veering into complaint, which is the exact opposite of the place I want to go. I'd much rather pull up by the warm fire's glow with non-carbohydrate beverage-of-choice and muse a little about philosophy and psychology with you -- and maybe it'll even be productive for us?
Ah, the warmth is nice.