"However it is very nice story about your family you told, unfortunately society has changed dramatically in the way man and woman think and want."

Yes, you're right, and people haven't adapted yet. I think I could run a household with a mix of modern and traditional ethics that turns out quite well, certainly much better than most people's do... there's not too many men seriously inclined towards imperialism, dynasty, triumph any more - I think there's far more women that would like an imperially minded, dynastic, triumphant man than there are those men in the world. But we'll see, I suppose.

"Heidegger is the most important philosopher in the 20th, the book we all know is ‘ Being and Time’ define the significant idea of dwelling, thinking and building which inspires major modern philosophy."

Just spent an hour reading some notes and summaries on it. Fascinating stuff. I had to read and re-read passages on Dasein, being, and Being to try to make sense of it at first, but it makes some sense now.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Heidegger
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Being_and_Time
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermeneutic_circle
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermeneutics

I'll read some more on this later, it's interesting stuff. Thanks for sharing.

> Pilots, soldiers, and international businessmen travel. I talk to them and learn how it goes
Those people may have family but have plenty of mistresses too. They could of have different mistress in different city. This concept is acceptable in some culture, especially in a society where rich man has too much power. Most of these men's wife also know about this but they are quite likely depend on their husband. I seen some of these family, it works- you are quite right. I also seen some women in asia after finishing her Phd, decide to quit her job and staying at home to look after children. Or many of them try to get a good degree just to get a good man. This is fact. In Western culture, it doesn't happen like that or not at that degree for several reasons: the women has almost equal opportunity with man when it comes to career; culture value evolves that has put women in the most powerful position in the history. Most of women I know will not accept the concept above, they left their husband soon after they found out about the mistress. The percentage of divorcing case is incredible high in the EU, the people make profit from it are lawyers after all.
However it is very nice story about your family you told, unfortunately society has changed dramatically in the way man and woman think and want. I m not here to judge, just mention some fact that we all know. Although I quite agree with you that chemical love is dangerous, as we all know that already. Duty still seems not a good enough tension in modern family.
Heidegger is the most important philosopher in the 20th, the book we all know is ' Being and Time' define the significant idea of dwelling, thinking and building which inspires major modern philosophy. It is a mental book to read, I only use philosophy as debating tools. My researching field is not of what we have discussed but inspired greatly. Thanks for great conversation. I will check out your book.

> I do know why you doing this, what I meant is, you could do a much better job as a writer.

I agree, I still have a lot to learn and improve. I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts.

> Because your story is actually very interesting, and the ideal of keep tracking your travel diary is something a lot of people do and not many do it right. I also think you are very brave of what you are trying to do: travel-business-writing are perfect combination.

Thanks Andy. I'm pretty individualistic, but I won't lie - it gives me quite a boost when people think what I'm doing is cool or brave or they like something about it.

> I myself love writing and literature, get so much inspiration from writing and evolve from it like Heidegger says’ I think therefore I m’.

Likewise. Recommend some books? I'd recommend Musashi by Eiji Yoshikawa and Arabian Nights, Husain Hadawy's translation if you haven't read them. Two of my favorites, Musashi was particularly meaningful to me and I learned a lot from Arabian Nights.

> But in every articles you wrote, there is something lacking, like food- it is not very tasty food ,just alright! You give informations more than spending time to describe it.

Interesting, interesting. Thanks for that feedback. Getting the ratio of flavor and sustenance down is tricky - you don't want to be all style no substance, but yeah, a little tasteful flavor goes a long way.

> For example, i think when some people argue with you in Luck doesn’t exist, they don’t quite get your point. But the way you set up the argument is already to waiting for a fight. I somewhat believe, you want to be a fighter….

Yes and no. Actually, I don't like fighting, but I see some things that are broken. Most people believe in luck, so saying luck doesn't exist sets up a fight, sure, but I think it's necessary. The sooner people realize that there is no luck and that they're in control of their life, the better. Too many people mentally give themselves over to fatalism and thus don't reach very much of their potential.

> I particular interested in the part you wrote about building a family and your travel to lot of difference places. Which seems very contradict to each other. How does that works? I think, you can never building a concrete family by your self without a women you love, especially while you are traveling.

"I think, you can never building a concrete family by your self without a women you love" - I agree with that, except I think about love differently than most people. I'm not after high chemical high emotion infatuation and excitement type love - I like pragmatic, realistic, down to earth love based on duty, respect, care, aligned values, and doing meaningful things together. I believe that's a solid foundation, whereas emotional/hyperactive/chemical love is a dangerous foundation for a relationship. I believe that foundation can be built even in challenging or unusual circumstances, so long as you have good communication and shared values. But it is tricky, and it's a long discussion. Like, a really long discussion - maybe I post on it sometime.

> We all think we can but it never works. I don’t think I could ever leave my kid and partner once we are all parts of a family.

Most successful parents I know are my Mom's younger brother and his wife. He runs a business and she takes their two kids up to her family's lakehouse during the summer months. He goes up and sees them 2 weeks out of the summer, the rest of the time they're with her, their grandparents, and other members of the family.

He runs a company and his company does 50% of their business in those 3 months of the year that the wife and kids are away. His house goes to hell since he's very much a bachelor at heart, pizza boxes and frozen waffle boxes get strewn around, linens don't get changed, stacks of dirty towels and laundry pile up. He gets to see and appreciate all the little things his wife does that he normally doesn't notice.

And she gets to notice little things too, they all get to realize how much they miss and respect each other. They're the happiest, most successful family I know. So I'm not sure what the ideal amount of time to spend with your woman and children is, but I'm pretty well convinced it's not 365 days/year. I think it's too easy to take each other for granted, a little time apart is solid.

Pilots, soldiers, and international businessmen travel. I talk to them and learn how it goes. Figuring out the ratio of the time to be on the road building and doing business, and the time to be building at home is tricky. I'm still not 100% sure how it'll go, but I'm actively learning, seeking out people who have what I want from my family and discussion with them, things like that. Maybe it'll be challenging, but trying to do a lot of meaningful things always is.

Thanks for the good discussion.

-Sebastian

I do know why you doing this, what I meant is, you could do a much better job as a writer. Because your story is actually very interesting, and the ideal of keep tracking your travel diary is something a lot of people do and not many do it right. I also think you are very brave of what you are trying to do: travel-business-writing are perfect combination. I myself love writing and literature, get so much inspiration from writing and evolve from it like Heidegger says' I think therefore I m'. But in every articles you wrote, there is something lacking, like food- it is not very tasty food ,just alright! You give informations more than spending time to describe it. For example, i think when some people argue with you in Luck doesn't exist, they don't quite get your point. But the way you set up the argument is already to waiting for a fight. I somewhat believe, you want to be a fighter....
I particular interested in the part you wrote about building a family and your travel to lot of difference places. Which seems very contradict to each other. How does that works? I think, you can never building a concrete family by your self without a women you love, especially while you are traveling. We all think we can but it never works. I don't think I could ever leave my kid and partner once we are all parts of a family.

Hey Andy - thanks for the thoughtful comment.

> I have read most of your site, and still don’t know much of why you doing this.

For myself, my friends and colleagues, and anyone who wants to learn with me. Some people liked Mark This Down and Watch Me, which is where I wrote out my tentative financial goals for the next 10 years or so. At Rule an Empire, Fistful of Rice I talked a lot of the philosophy of being single-minded towards an important purpose and tried to give people a great introduction to the wonderful Japanese comic Lone Wolf and Cub - the most deep comic I've ever read, quite meaningful and beautiful. Surprisingly, a post I made off the cuff became the most popular, with lots of Facebook likes spreading - A Lot of Victory is Just Walking Around, about walking through neighborhoods in Hong Kong and paying attention to the businesses and land, and thinking a little bit. The two posts on "Luck Doesn't Exist" got some great discussion going.

So overarching, why do I post here? To share what I think, what I'm working on, hopefully to inspire some people, and be inspired, to connect with some people, to be held accountable for my goals... lots of reasons.

> To saying that, it is not all your writing is impersonal, some parts is better than other. I feel quite moved when you describe how you see your daughter is playing violin and want to save your money in to good investment for your future kids. Those kind of details will make literature. It try to explains your objection. But i feel rather sad that there is a lot of potential in the stories you tell but there isn’t enough emotions or details, you tend to skip this part.

Thank you for the feedback - I like writing about those most personal, closely held things too. I'll see if I can work more of that into my writing. Thank you for the feedback and best wishes.

Hey Sebastian,

I ve just found your website, very interesting blog btw. There is just some thought in general about the way you write. At first, it seems very strong and clear your arguments which sometimes can be quite aggressive for the reader but that may be the style you chose. We often call it Rhetorical writing. You raise some interesting thoughts and issues from your own personal experience that is all very well. But for me, many of those writings is deeply flawed in term of structure, therefore it is hard to understand your point, why you want to propose these arguments from the start. I m not questioning about your skill and intelligence as a business leadership or blogger. It is not my major. But it would be so much more helpful for the audience when you write about your personal life with a bit of real flavor.
I have read most of your site, and still don't know much of why you doing this. A quality piece of writing is different to the rest in the way that you engaging with your own intuition, your private world and therefore we must curious to know how you resolve the problems.
To saying that, it is not all your writing is impersonal, some parts is better than other. I feel quite moved when you describe how you see your daughter is playing violin and want to save your money in to good investment for your future kids. Those kind of details will make literature. It try to explains your objection. But i feel rather sad that there is a lot of potential in the stories you tell but there isn't enough emotions or details, you tend to skip this part. Hence it is not so convincing.
I often found the most annoying mistakes we all make when we write is that we all so afraid of telling others' what is this really about'. What I m trying to say is that ' without feeling, we are all loser from the start'.

Best