"Abstinence is easy, moderation is hard."
"Abstinence is easy, moderation is hard."
I'm one of the most frugal people I know. After suddenly "making it", I feel like my "frugality" is now just for show. Logically, I know frugality saves money, but when a few week's work brings in five figures, saving $2 here and there feels weird...
I know that my success is largely based on luck. But even with that knowledge, and that attempt at "frugality", it's hard to make financial decisions. One day you're skimping and watching your grocery budget, the next day you're a "success" making a decent income - when it's all a big shock and you have so many new options suddenly available to you, where do you draw the line on "splurging"?
Another effect of the "I'm so brilliant" fallacy that I'm seeing, is that I find making trivial decisions exhausting and pointless. Now I know why Steve Jobs always wore the same outfits!
I found your blog about two years ago when I was googling "self discipline blogs". At that time, your blog was the only one that talked about self-discipline, something I was trying to increase.
I enjoyed reading your blog because it came across as the diary of an ambitious young 20-something. It's rare to meet people in life who are openly ambitious, and that's the main reason I like reading your articles. Your philosophy is similar to mine, and your posts are a breath of relief from those who keep saying that wanting to get ridiculously rich is bad. Also, we all have those "loser friends" in life. The ones who will spend all their time playing video games and not doing anything good for themselves, and then complain about it and get jealous when you achieve something. You're like a virtual friend who's the opposite of those guys.
I'll be the devil's advocate here. Most of my life I have done non-conventional things and faced this kind of pressure. It is strongest from those who are closest to you - and I think it has a lot to do with protectiveness. For most people, the conventional ways have the highest payoff: expected return = probability times max value. So even if max value is lower, the probability of achieving that is higher. Whereas for things with higher max value (starting a business) the probability of success is lower - so some people just want to protect you from getting hurt.
However (and I'm off my advocacy horse now), most people who want you to join in their debauchery are just being stupid. Like that beer comment - I've seen that a lot too and it makes no sense to me.
And of course some people just want to enforce their political/religious views on you and are more evangelists then friends (this based on horrible experience that happened to a friend who got an abortion...)
Wow. This is amazing. I love your blog but I think this is a post I'll read a couple of times.
I love how you pinpointed the fact that people take real life failure so personally.
I think - everyone who knows a game player, knows that they often match up to the stereotype of "sensitive, no social skills" at least to some extent. Maybe because they don't go out much and feel scared of the rejection etc? I love the concept of taking the "it hit me personally" out of failure and playing it like a game. I know, hurt and embarassment and rejection are reasons we don't take risks, but trying to take emotion out of failures, moving on to the next thing if we fail... I think that's a good goal.
Also loved the "create fantasy" stuff. I'm lazy by nature but when I'm dragged out to non-habitual places and experiences I love it! Definitely need to try to replace my values of "comfort and relaxed fun" (ie staying home, watching movies and tv shows with the hubby, ordering in, etc) with "adventure". This metaphor has been a real eye-opener for me.
I'm not time tracking yet :( But I have goals (eg, wake @6; exercise; meditate, etc) that I try to achieve for a week or two consistently and I do give myself mental achievement stars...
A career blog I read says "likeable but incompetent people are less likely to be fired". Very true and indicative of how most people in society think.
Hmm. Interesting sleep data. Not so much about the deviations or the mean, but the actual amount slept - 8.2 per night.
I'm not sure how much an ideal amount of sleep is. I do know that I like 7.5 - 9 hours of sleep, averaging 8. I feel about guilty about all my sleeping but I can't take naps. I can't function well on less than 7 hours nightly sleep. But it still sucks that I can't cut sleep to increase production because productivity goes down so badly!
Also, I suppose correlations of sleep with other data would be pretty interesting...
Loved Black Swan. Read it before I had to make any major life decisions - it taught me to try to minimize risk wherever possible (relationships, etc) so that I could take risks where I wanted to (relocation, career...)
I think paper is already a luxury good for many of us. I buy "nicer" notepads for $7ish and Moleskin ones cost a bit more I think. But then again, I use my notebooks a fair bit.