Not immediately. It's gonna take me a few years ;-)
Not immediately. It's gonna take me a few years ;-)
I suspect that the hypomania isn't literally about physical heat, though it probably *is* about the brain going into overdrive and needing lots of recovery time.
Still, as another poster says, then you'd expect colder regions to have more folks like this. And Finland is a hard datapoint to ignore :-)
An alternative explanation for Finland: long winters, boredom, where hypomania is a welcome distraction and there's plenty of recovery time afterward when you need it.
I agree with Sebastian's points. Some expansions and nitpicks:
Even if you're otherwise doing well, you should *definitely* look to improve at negotiating. Here's the best reference I know on salary negotiation for programmers, both logistically and philosophically: http://www.kalzumeus.com/2012/01/23/salary-negotiation/
Doing your own stuff at work means they have a reasonable claim on owning your work. DO NOT DO THAT with anything you may later start a business with. NO NO NO. This has bitten many people in the ass and you don't want it to bite you.
Finally, figure out why you're working. Are you working to improve your performance at programming? Or to earn enough money to let you do your stuff with a minimum of pain? These two approaches look completely different. You need to know why you're doing it. Skating by on 25% performance might be *perfectly* serving your goals... Or it might not. You don't know unless you can look at what those goals are. I am currently working at my day job primarily to improve my leadership skills, with an important secondary goal of keeping a fairly solid income to support my family ("fairly" solid because job security sucks in my industry but we keep a big cash buffer to compensate). This means I should jump at every chance to give presentations, and I do. I should be working hard to lead group software efforts, and I do. But if my job tries to put me on a death-march coding assignment I won't be leading, I should slack or transfer.
Principles and goals don't always make you more disciplined at a given activity. They make you *much* more disciplined when it serves your goals and much *less* disciplined when it doesn't. That's a good thing.
Have I mentioned how much I like being married? I mostly just bring the cash home and my wife makes budgets. I have a specific personal budget which it is specifically no problem to "waste" on stuff I like. It doesn't generally increase as our income does, though next big raise I'll probably suggest it (and my wife's) should go up by a portion of that increase-after-tax -- we're making noticeably more money than we did when we initially set it up.
Something different, that strikes me as related...
Carlos Castaneda, writing of things he was taught, said (paraphrased):
There are two kinds of people in the world. Those that care about people and those that don't. A man who cares about people can't really help you, because he is thinking and worrying constantly about the effect his help will have on you and whether it's a good idea. A man who doesn't care about people can give you the shirt off his back, and often will. He doesn't care about you or the shirt, so he can just do it.
This is an excellent thing to notice, and to realize. Good on you for being willing to catch that, and to see what it said about you.
Incidentally: you won't convert many people on this one. *Actually* not judging is a low-status behavior. You don't have to hide your not-judging, necessarily. But if you don't hide it, you *will* be looked down on because you do it.
Notice how Jesus has a huge fan club, but they all kinda ignore the "hanging with lepers and prostitutes and being nice to prisoners" parts of his advice? Don't be afraid to be Jesus, but don't expect better results with your fan club than he got.
(If Jesus does it, does that mean it's high-status? Nope. Look at how people in Southern mega-churches treat actual flesh-and-blood people who hang out with inmates. Jesus is so high-status that his little peccadilloes are ignored or forgiven.)
You can do that. But that assumes you have the resources to start them all in a credible and measurable way. Doing that with at least a few tactics at once could help a lot, though.
This is a great observation, and one I hadn't thought of. It's totally my low moods that get me in particular :-)
And this advice is nicely suited to the answer "both", as well.
Powerful. I actually stopped drinking alcohol on a regular basis after having a somewhat similar experience -- I realized that I didn't actually want a drink, but had the bottle in my hand and was halfway to the cabinet for a glass... and also that I had no real memory of going from sitting to that point.
That was almost 20 years ago, now. I still drink, but much less frequently -- rarely twice in the same week, for instance.
But it's the same thing. Alcohol increases that tendency to act without thinking (even when you're sober!) And so it's important to take those indirect precautions with it.
The SF event last night was wonderful. I didn't know much about Tynan or Zach Obront and their talks -- especially Tynan's deep dive into his workflow -- were great information. And yeah, Sebastian's talk on Eating Salt was great. It makes me happy that we're all still quoting Aristotle, even now.
+1 on the tour events being awesome ;-)