A lot of times people with very specific complaints about the world believe that the negatives they see are universal truths. Perhaps they see that other people are consistently unreliable, or that others don't work hard enough, or that there's never enough money to go around.
And often, the person is dead right. All of their experiences should it to be, seemingly, empirically true.
But often, the person doesn't realize something crucial -- they're causing the problem upstream.
So when things unravel at their 13th month on the job, they might have failed to realize that they set this dynamic up in month 1 and month 2. And once a course has been charted, small frictions wind up grinding the gears to a halt, and then whatever they see as ill with the world -- happens.
The way out of it? You have to ask other people if the problem is indeed universal, and crucially -- the people you ask must have very different backgrounds, views, ethics, and action patterns than you.
But people don't do this. If they see people around them as late all the time, they don't ask people from different environments and cultures if that's a common universal feature. At best, they ask their friends who have similar backgrounds and cultures as them.
Most people don't even ask their friends. They just assume it to be true. Hence, thinking all bosses are bad, or all employees, or all men, or all women, or all companies, or...
You get the picture. Those negatives you see with the world? You might be setting those up by your choices far upstream. Indeed, when you chop a tree at Time 1, it's inevitable that it falls at Time 3. But that doesn't mean trees are constantly falling...
So the lesson is to always run our beliefs by people we trust (preferable people with very different lives than our own).
A lot like Ray Dalio's method of life:
1) know what he wants & come up with a theory of how to get it
2) (This is what we're talking about) Ask the smartest people he knows for their opinions on the flaws in his theories, and see if he agrees with their reasonings and conclusions
3) Be weary of overconfidence and good at not knowing
4) Put the theories into practice, see the results, and reflect on what he did so that he can improve.
I found the PTFAR formula from the Secret of Millionaire Mindset by Harv Eker to be a good model. P = Program, R = Results. What we program from the early parts of our lives matter, i believe. I have lived through times when i checked myself, or my team first, whenever a problem occurred. I found that my team members became frustrated and tended to see "the buck stops here" move to be a disadvantage to the team. This happened within many organizations, i observe until today, as i work with people from many different companies.
But then, i ask myself, there are people who proclaim such programming coming from the Lives before this. To unravel all our past programming, they claim, we have to go back into THAT past as well. Although I believe in that as well, the practical application of this latter fact in my Life is something I never got around to experiment with. However, in the Power of NOW, Eckhart Tolle gave me a wonderful clue to overcome all those past Programming. The only portal we need, so said Tolle, is NOW. And WE ALL HAVE NOW.
I use that a lot these days, whether to help business clients or managers to solve their daily issues, BIG or small. It is not that people's views do not matter. It's just that all those Minds working Overtime can give you plenty of reasons why one small problem is giving someone a headache. I heard of a solution a long time ago from a wise Guru, i.e. Silence has all the answers. I believe in that also. But before Tolle, the answer was not as clear as it has become for me NOW. After coming through the wilderness of Life, I am glad to be able to face the rest of my Life with this enlightened insight. Just sharing.
I came across your site a few days ago after a friend posted a link to your "What Skills Do You Need to be an Entrepreneur? Only Two" article. While I've read many different blogging sites about similar topics, there was something about your writing that has compelled me to stay on your site and read through dozens of your articles. In fact, of all the sites/blogs I have read, you are the first I have attempted to contact. You seem like a really interesting guy, and you have certainly inspired me.
Anyways, I read in one of your works that you aren't much a fan of small talk (nor am I), so I'll cut straight to my questions:
What are you thoughts on Ayn Rand? Have you read Atlas Shrugged or The Fountainhead? The reason I ask is because a lot of your writing seems to reflect some of the core points of her philosophy, at least on an individual perspective (as portrayed in The Fountainhead). I'm not sure how you feel about her philosophy for a society as a whole, as in Atlas Shrugged.
If you've never read her before, here is a good excerpt of her thoughts on money (to get an idea of what her books are like):http://www.capitalismmagazine.com/economics/money/1826-francisco-s-money-speech.html
Cutting out sugars and refined flours, as we talked about last time, probably offers the most significant opportunity to improve your diet. Unlike sugar, meat is not all bad. It does in fact have nutrients in it which are readily used by your body.
Unfortunately for steak lovers (my former self included), the negatives associated with eating meat far outweigh the positives (including that buttery rich taste that we all love so much).
There are two major problems with eating meat is well as the issue of animal rights, which I'll get into at the end.