"Home" is a pretty simple concept for most people. If you grow up in one place, live there, settle there, all your friends and family are there, your possessions are there, and your life is there... that's your home. Pretty straightforward.
This starts to fail for travelers. If you spend 1/4th of the year in London and 3/4ths in Alabama, but you love London, your closest friends are there, etc... which is your home?
Trickier question. But the answer, still, is some mix of Alabama and/or London.
Now, what happens when your friends and family are spread across the world and you constantly move around, and you don't have home or hard ties anywhere? MUCH harder question to answer.
That was where I was a couple years ago. Strong connections to a half dozen cities, hard ties in none of them, and so on.
But I still had one thing to call "home" - it's where my suitcase with all my stuff was. I had my clothes, my vitamins, some notebooks with writing and sketches in them, and so on. This pile of stuff became home. When my luggage was in a serviced apartment in District 1 of Saigon, that's where "home" was at the moment. When I went on a two day trip to Mui Ne with a light travel bag, "home" was still D1 Saigon, I was just detouring to Mui Ne.
Lately it's gotten more confusing. The room I rent in Beijing is 20 minutes from my office, but I often sleep at the office if I put in late nights. Further confusing things, I've got some real estate nearby where I put up my guests that are in town, and I can shower/shave/crash there when it's free, as well as a couple friends who have spare rooms with air mattresses.
There's 4-5 places I sleep with some regularity, all within a short range. It was confusing because it's not clear where "home" is, and sometimes I'll forget where my vitamins are, where my toothbrush was, and so on. The "home-as-place-with-ties" model already disintegrated from me years ago since I had too many emotionally connected places. But now even the "physical home" was starting to disintegrate as a cohesive mental concept. It was setting me back...
...and I've got it now.
None of those possessions are particularly special. I had previously put them together haphazardly - vitamin C, fish oil, Piracetam, socks, boots, workout clothing, paper notebooks, computer, toothbrush and floss and toothpaste, shirts, pants, jacket, hat, gloves.
I'm realizing I can systematize this - make a list and places to procure all of these things. Can get my computer sync'ed so I don't even need it, and then there'll only be a few basic things I need to carry with me - driver's license, credit cards, passport.
The rest? I can systematize those. Have a tailor with my measurements so I can order new shirts, pants, suits, ties, jackets easily. Have a couple brands I wear for casual clothing, have those written down. Have written down suppliers for the vitamins, supplements, performance enhancing drugs I take. Have a few acceptable choices for toothpaste, soap, shampoo, etc. Socks.
And... then I'm free from material possessions, and the concept of "home" disintegrates. "Home" is just a staging ground for doing cool stuff, and possessions are just tools to do some cool stuff. By systematizing it onto a list that my assistant could assemble rapidly anywhere, I could hop on a plane on a spur of the moment and have all my "home stuff" catch up to me in a couple days via FedEx.
The first step? I'm stocking everywhere I stay sometimes with some clothing, medicines, toiletries, and other basics. It doesn't even cost much. My tailor is great and surprisingly inexpensive - going to have them make between 20 and 30 versions of everything I wear regularly, and I'll buy a few small suitcases so I can have a "home on the go" kit everywhere. Will need to figure out basic supply chains for ordering everything else I use regularly, but the idea of provisioning any room I use even occasionally in order to save a few hours per week... it's cool, isn't it? If I have kits like this, I can randomly grab a hotel room in the far end of the city to save 2 hours of travel time, if I'm delivering massive value per hour it becomes a good trade. When we open a Shanghai office, I can just send a bag of stuff ahead of me, and be all "set up" as soon as I arrive with just a briefcase.
The cost? It's really not that much. Low hundreds per setup. It's just too far outside of most people's thinking, but it's the next step for me. Possessions are nonsense, they're only useful insofar as they allow us to do cool stuff.
Very interesting post. When I was living in my RV I had similar feelings. I wouldn't cook in there a lot. Most of the time I'd make breakfast in the office two hours before people got there, then go shower at my gym about 5 mins away. I'd only come "home" to the RV to sleep. On the days I wasn't working into crazy hours of the night, I'd hang out in a coffee shop a block away from where I parked most of the time to catch up on email, write, etc. for the electrical outlets. I wound up leaving a tooth brush and dress shirts at the office so I didn't have to fuss with them when I got up in the morning.
The tailor made clothes sound like a good option. Since you're in Beijing, I hear that Shanghai has incredibly cheap tailor made suits.
Also, watch out for the air pollution there, which apparently just which literally off the charts.
I have two "homebases"
One in Stockholm, Sweden and another one in Boston, MA.
Most of the remaining physical possessions I have are in a storage unit in MA.
And it's not much. Basically clothes, books, CD's, and such.
I am trying to get rid of more and more of it, and convert physical stuff to digital as much as possible.
I basically have a minimalist identical setup in these two countries, including clothes.
Wow. I'm not quite there yet....but give me a few years.
Currently when people ask where I'm from, I just say America.
Most of my life has been spent in Chicagoland. My mail gets sent to a virtual mail service in California. My drivers license says Florida. I've been in Boston since May. I'm currently living in a hotel in Connecticut. The bulk of my physical possessions are in a storage unit in Massachusetts.
Another good question. I'm paraphrasing here, it was something like, "How do you know you're fixing the right problem if things seem wrong? In relation to habit change, improvement, changing moods - how do you know you're solving the right thing?"
My answer -
Well, I think the first thing worth saying is that most people don't fix most of their problems. I don't say that as a pessimist - they could fix their problems. But they don't. Most people don't change much after their early youth is over. If they overeat, they overeat their whole life. If they're an alcoholic, they're an alcoholic their whole life. If they work at some shitty job they hate, they work there their whole life.
I say this just to give you an idea of how hard it can be. In my experience, it takes me a lot longer than I want it to to change fundamental aspects of my character and habits. Oftentimes, it takes 6+ months of regular focus on it, if the old habit was burned in a lot. That sucks and it's hard, which is why most people don't change.
I think fundamentals are typically the way forwards. When feeling low, unproductive, frustrated, annoyed, angry, whatever - typically, the answer is fundamental stuff. Eat right, stretch, breathe, get into motion with some exercise or at least some walking, spend time in nature, spend time around people you respect, read good books, get on a normal healthy sleep schedule, take vitamins, clean up the area around you, things like that. Wash all the clothing, clean up computer/email files, shave (for a guy)/cut fingernails/cut toenails. If in a country where it's inexpensive, go get a massage. Go sit in a quiet cafe or on a beach and fully relax if very tired. Do planning/goal-setting type stuff in a notebook.
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