You can get your scuba licenses and go on some crazy dives for $500 total, or less.
Learn to snowboard? $500, again, give or take.
Fly an airplane? Look it up. It ain't so much.
International travel? Trivially easy and inexpensive in the days of Skype, Matrix ITA flight search + kayak.com, Wikitravel, and Google.
That list of stuff you're "going to get to someday"?
You're not going to get to it. You could do half the stuff on the list by the end of next year if you were serious.
Sorry if I'm interrupting American Idol here. Your dreams? You could just do them. Stop lying to yourself and saying you're going to do them, because you're not - unless you start right now.
Jacob, I like the honesty and forthrightness of your answer. Do you really want to be a leader? I'm not hearing the hunger here. But I do think there's something about accomplishment that you crave, and you already know what motivates you, so use that to your advantage.
You need to do things with others in order to make yourself accountable. Ok, do that.
Even better might be to work with someone like Sebastian, someone ambitious and focussed who will let you ride on his coattails if you'll be a good aide-de-camp. I firmly believe that not everyone needs to be a leader. Be a follower, if that's who you are. But be the best damn follower you can be. Live the vision. Follow through on your orders. If there's a leader going your way, why not?
You do what others admire because you want to be respected. To do your own thing you can't care about respect. Not even in that "ultimately they'll come around and respect me for my independence" way. So, you have to use Sebastian's tools without trying to do what he's doing unless that's your thing.
Separately from that you improve your taste in activities and obviously you look to others for ideas there.
And next time, get a reservation and tell your wife's family the restaurant is waiting for you. Again, if that's your thing.
This post is very Fight Club-esque. It's reasons like this why we need reminders; We keep postponing our lives out of laziness and fear. Not many of us have the courage to be brutally honest.
Dreaming is easy, planning just as easy, actually doing it is the really hard part. After reading your blog every day now for the last few months I've come to the conclusion that that there are really only two kinds of people in this world. Those who can do for themselves, and those who can't.
Sebastian you fall into the first category well enough, while I myself fall into the second. The big difference between us is that when you've decided you want to jump off a plane your already half way out the door without a parachute, where as I need to be pushed off the plane kicking and screaming. We'll both have a great time in the experience, its just our motivations are different. Your motivated by yourself and your own ambition, and I am motivated by others. You look up to no one really, while I see you as the man I wish I were but will never be.
You make it sound as simple as "quit lying to yourself and just do it", and it may be just that simple for you. But for some of us a little shove in the right direction goes a long way.
Apparently I've just described the difference between leaders and followers. Oh well my point, if I really had one in the first place now that I think about it, is the only real "lie" I and others like myself need to quit telling ourselves is that we can do these things alone when in reality without something or someone there to push us to do things we never will.
I guess that's why it's so hard to get away from the cycle of self destruction that so many of us engage in. It's not that we've consciously made the decision to eat bad food, sit around on tv or the web, or play games all day. It's that doing all those things is easier and requires little or no thought to accomplish. Far less motivation then scuba diving, sky diving, or flying a plane.
With a little ambition, technically I could do all those things over the next year with a little effort however why would anyone do them if they weren't already inclined to do things on their own? Once again I'd just be lying to myself if I said I was going to do these things, now if I said "we" were going to do them, either with family or friends its no longer a "lie" but a possibility at that point. Because that's how followers like me work. What sad is when you get a whole room full of followers like my wife's family, and try to decided where to to go out for dinner. Make you want to pull your hair out.
So my question for you Sabastian would be what can I do become a leader like you?
How do I get out of my follower mindset, and into a mindset where "I" am in charge of my own life instead of just living a life one day and one short term pleasure at a time?
After a few months of following you I still haven't come across that answer...
This post fills me with the intense desire to prove you wrong by following my dreams, starting two weeks from now.
Hey mate! Good to hear you backfire again. There's a difference though. There are some that go below the level (water) to feel body freedom, some that feel that body can be weightless when you jump off airplane, when you do something that was impossible when you watched Cousteau Odyssey. When I felt that money could buy you a dream. It's not given. It's a blessing at some point.How many people actually have done it? SM - You are fantastic man! Keep it going but don't challenge us on basic stuff. Yes we do lie. Yes We do live. Yes we do pretend. On small level. On little scale. Just to get the day go by. The next one will bring us amazing opportunities, new people, new challenges, new life. Don't fight us. Let us rest. We will take our belief, our stuff together. We'll make a change. Step By Step. Bit By Bit. Life by life. Ordinary. Extraordinary! You never know. What I like about your blog is that you do care and you do dare. Go for it.
I do dare you to do something impossible. After you do all your business deals and encounters. Taking it easy I dare you to do something impossible. You name the goal. 100 pushups concerning to Joel or a 100 money making things concerning to Dan and Ian or walking 2000km, talk to me. I just appreciate what you do. Get shit done, No excuses. Go for it. I am in the process. I don't know how it will end up. I live, I believe I do. Vlad
Key word here: lessons. People spend DAYS reading articles on the Internet or struggling through something themselves when two hours with an expert would get them ten times further. Find a teacher (any teacher, get off the review sites), pay them, and if you still like the activity after actually trying it, outgrow the teacher as fast as possible.
I saw this excellent blog post - "What a High School Student Learned from Paul Graham" - and I was really impressed with the author. He sounds like he's going to kick lots of ass.
I commented on his site, and I like how this comment turned out. Here you go -
Impressive, very good attitude. Godspeed in your endeavors.
A quick thought - don't wait for permission in any area of life. It's rarely that people will throw open the doors to you. Most forms of adventure and worthy causes and prestige can be walked into with a small amount of money as long as you're willing to try.
It costs maybe $500, max, to get a basic scubadiving license, and it's one of the most enjoyable things you'll ever do in your life.
As anyone who follows my tweets knows, I'm going to be doing the JetBlue All-You-Can-Jet promotion. Because I'm flexible, I saved $200 and bought the five day pass for $500, which means that I can't fly on Friday or Sunday. The pass entitles me to fly from September 7th until October 6th for free on all JetBlue flights. This includes all taxes in the US, but not outside the US. I've been thinking about the best way to use this pass, and I'm going to share my strategy with you, in case you bought one as well.
There aren't all that many places in the US I want to go. Within a month or two of the promotion I will have been to NY, Boston, Austin and LA, which covers most of my bases. So I'm mostly seeing this as a ticket to get HUGE discounts on international travel for a month.