What a strong negative connotation! Judging. Judging things, judging people, being judgmental... these are not pleasant things that polite and civilized people do... right?
But if judging is such a fault, perhaps we should learn what exactly it is. Hmm... I don't know exactly. Maybe Merriam-Webster can enlighten us:
Judge. Transititive verb. "to form an opinion about through careful weighing of evidence and testing of premises"
Hmm. That's... not what we expected, now is it? Judging is bad. But forming an opinion through careful weighing of evidence and testing premises... that doesn't sound so bad. Hmm.
What does that sound like to me?
On Growing Up
Well. It happened. I got accepted into grad school. Which is exciting - trust me it's REALLY exciting. But acceptance is a funny thing. Or "being accepted" is a funny thing. Not sure which one's funnier. Or not funny at all.
It's hard to do anything genuinely when you are only looking for an acceptance. The thing about acceptance is that it's always to someone else's standard. Let's talk about grad school - this school sets a standard, had a process, and I (applying) had to strive to meet that standard. I would hopefully pass it, and impress them enough to want me there.
While it’s acceptable to want to do well and in this case put effort and passion into presenting oneself for an educational opportunity, it’s kinda a dangerous way to live life.
There was a time - not so long ago - that my whole life was based off of being accepted by things/people. I don't just mean the occasional compliment or promotion but this never ending strive to be the best so that others "higher" than me would notice or give recognition. It was kinda gross. And it kinda made me a gross person.
When striving for acceptance life is viewed through a lens that only sees pass or fail and not the journey taken to get there. A life striving for acceptance lacks depth and stability – thus the dangerous part.