I've grudgingly come to admit that there's some luck in the world. A belief that luck doesn't exist is useful for getting a lot and developing a sense of internal control over one's life, but okay, there's random variables that hit.
A new definition of luck, then, is something like --
Luck: The outcome of variables outside of your control.
To reduce luck's impact on your life, you've got three options:
1. Increase your influence/control over events in your life.
2. Decrease the variables that matter to your end goal.
3. Or make outcomes less contingent on variables.
Of course, you can expose yourself to high-upside low-downside events, which will sometimes yield big positive results... while reducing luck's hold on you in the core areas.
Ha! Sebastian, I feel like sympathetically patting your hand for your grudging allowance of the existence of factors outside your control. You know, while simultaneously giving you a hard time about it.
One of the best ways I know to handle luck is to emulate the Taoist farmer-- good luck, bad luck, who can say? You can only control your reaction to the upset.
I hear people talk about luck a lot. Straightup - luck doesn't exist.
If you believe in luck, then you believe either: (1) some people consistently defy probability, or, (2) some things aren't a result of cause and effect.
Life is a series of probability. Every day, there's a chance that a given set of things will happen. If you want to have a successful life, expose yourself to as much high-upside low-downside probability as you can. Any given thing you do might not work out, but if you expose yourself to high-upside low-downside, good things will happen. Read books, reach out to people, try to get projects working, keep trying to write and build things, keep learning new skills, keep treating people well.
If you want to fail at life, expose yourself to high-downside no-upside probability. This is short term gain at long term expense type stuff. Cigarettes. Unsecured debt for consumption. Most TV.
You'll keep getting "lucky" if you keep exposing yourself to things with upside and limited downside. If you get an amazing job or contract that you had a 1 in 1,000 chance of getting, were you lucky? No, especially not if you applied and pitched 1,000 other places. If you say, "Ok, I'm going to keep trying to get what I want until I do" you'll get it, as long as it's a positive sum game you're playing.
The love of your life is with you always.
Notwithstanding what is happening in your life whether you judge it good or bad, love it anyway.
Love, you see, is a universal energy flowing through you and readily available to you.
The only criteria is you have to be open to receive it.
I have learned the first step in opening to a greater consciousness of love is the skill of letting go.