Very few people make decisions on pure principal. Even if they know something is right, or wrong, they say things like "well, I pick and choose my battles" or "I've got to do the sensible thing."
There's something to that, sure. But I rarely hear people say, "I'm scared and just back down from doing what I really feel I should do because of fear."
I never hear that, ever, but surely some people are stepping back out of fear. They comfort themselves by saying that they're reasonable people who pick and choose.
Maybe that's true. It's worth double-checking yourself when you start saying stuff like that though - could it possibly, maybe, just be fear?
I don't really have principles so I don't see any problem with not fighting battles. I can't remember the last time I actually believed I was right and the other guy was wrong and I had to "fight" in any way.
I can't say many of us would have handled this the same as Sebastian, but is your tone really necessary Anthony or are you just projecting some inferiority complex issues here?
You know what is stupid though? Defining every one of your personal issues as a moral fight, requiring a fearless white knight such as yourself to take a stance and save the world, while really you are just annoyed that something didn't work out the way you wanted it to work out. Maybe what you fear is realizing that you are human too, all things considered, and that you have to choose your own battles as well.
I think most of us follow a utilitarian approach. We put all the pros and cons on the scale and if a course of action has more pros than cons then we follow it. Fear may have something to do with it, but most of the time it's a strictly pragmatic thing. For example, take your recent feud with Cathay: most people would see the futility of the situation, file the complain, move to coach and later, if they can prove that they were right, get an upgrade for a future flight or some other concession from the airline. Some people are more interested in seeng their kids after a long trip than risking being retained or stranded indefinitely in a foreign place, orveven go to jail just to make a point. It's one of those low upside huge downside things that you talk about in your book. Strictly utilitarian: more cons than pros, so no go. I also believe in picking battles: for example, coming back to your particular situation, you have a big thing going on with the publishing company, and now this. How many dragons can you realistically fight at the same time?
OK, enough with the unsolicited advice. Take care dude, and keep putting out great stuff. The strategic tips and actionable advice in your blog and book are gold and have already made a big difference in my productivity and focus, as I'm sure they've done for many others.
It is the old flight or fight decision. Fear is your lizard brain saying that the smart min max strategy could be withdrawal. Don't underestimate the wisdom that "he who runs away, lives to fight another day" aka "pick your battles"
It's you that is the fool not CX.
CX should ban you from all their future flights. Such idiotic nonsense crap cannot be tolerated. Go and experiment this type of crap back in USA. You make zero sense. Leave the case as you will be a laughing stock. You already are on the Pilots Network site where you thought they would rally behind you but sorry to say that they think you are an absolute idiot.
I have a suggestion for you. Go dig a hole in the sand and bury your ugly face inside the hole and never come out. Your fucking dickhead.
The majority of "evil" -- or just nastiness -- I think is less due to malice, hate, or cruelty.
I think the majority of bad things people do happen because they're (1) afraid, and (2) they take the expedient course.
Fear is a mess, of course. Scared people do all kinds of idiot moves.
(Which isn't to say that fear is irrational. Maybe the fear is justified. But scared people do stupid and crazy things.)
But fear... fear is probably okay, even. If you work through it. If you understand it. If you take time and work at it.
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