What do you want to eat?
"I don't know, I don't care, anything is fine." --> NOT COURTEOUS.
When do you want to schedule that lunch meeting? I can do Wednesday, Friday, or the following Monday.
"I don't care, any day is good." --> NOT COURTEOUS.
They seem courteous, but you're really offloading the decisionmaking back to the other person. And the thing is, maybe you don't do this, but a lot of people will say they're totally flexible but then dislike the first option suggested and only then do their thinking and propose something.
The best phrasing of this idea I've found. Meditate on it -
"Not what I have, but what I do, is my kingdom." - Thomas Carlysle
I've been following your blog for quite sometime now and your recent post struck a chord with me. I've found that I have no passion. Instead, I have a passion for the passionate, in the abstract. When I'm working near people who love what they do, can see their grand vision and have a pathway to the future it inspires me. From a chef to a programmer, if I meet a passionate person, I immediately want to be them.
I've made numerous blogs covering different topics. I've started a variety of different groups at university. I've even switched hobbies from martial arts to programming to yoyos. Nothing seems to stick. It seems I need a mentor of sorts to make sure I stay on track otherwise, some voice in my head is "ooh! try this! no no no! try this!"
My main question is, how to continue? How do you know when you should cut your losses or when you're just being a pansy? Help me focus Sebastian!
I know where you're at and I've got a number of thoughts.
First and foremost, did you see Miguel Hernandez's replied? I wrote "Passion Emerges From Action, Not Contemplation," I asked for Miguel's take because he's a sharp guy.
When I was a bit younger, I used to think stupid people were a problem.
I don't know how I'd define stupid exactly, but you know roughly what I mean. I thought, "Stupid people cause problems."
Now I'm starting to change my mind.
However you define "stupid," I don't think it's stupid people causing problems. There's lots of things I'm unskilled, uneducated, or unsophisticated about, but I tend to know I'm unskilled, uneducated, and unsophisticated about it. If I got into a metalworking shop, I'd quickly ask someone there what I'm supposed to do to stay safe, and then I'd stay the hell out of the way.
You see, I'm stupid about metalworking and metalworking safety, but that's okay. I'm rarely in a metalworking shop, I'd ask for guidance/instructions if I was, and I'd be careful and stay out of the way.
I've been thinking about sustainable performance a lot lately.
After you over-work yourself and burn out a couple times, or see core areas of your life get neglected, eventually you wise up and start thinking about sustainability.
But it's always been very, very hard to define. What's "sustainable"? You can keep doing it without things going wrong?
Well, okay, but that's not particularly insightful.
Some people will say it's about having a balance, but I certainly know people who have lives that are out of balance -- but sustainably so, and they enjoy it that way.
After spotting an article on Medium that said, “Attending art school is a waste of your money”, Chiara knew the author had to be interesting. He is.... and so we're really glad to have him here on GiveGetWin.
Noah Bradley is an artist who’s been freelancing for 5+ years. In that short time, he achieved enough financial freedom to finally work full time on his own art. Chiara brought him to share some really cool insights and lessons from freelancing as an artist, such as:
If you do any sort of art at all, read and enjoy this interview. Then head over to Noah's deal -- course on making money online as an artist, something he’s always found lacking in art school.
"Principles For Teaching Yourself Visual Art" -- by Noah Bradley, as told to Chiara Cokieng
I'm really glad to bring you this interview and GiveGetWin deal with Charlie Hoehn. The topic is critically important -- it's about getting away from anxiety and workaholism, and getting more out of life. Very important for driven go-getter types like most people who read here. This interview promotes Charlie's GiveGetWin deal, "Turn Work Into Play" -- designed to bring you greater sanity and happiness while helping you do more of what you want to do.
Here's the interview, there's some gems in this one --
"To Heal, Play."By Charlie Hoehn, as told to Chiara Cokieng and edited by Sebastian Marshall.
First and foremost, I'm a writer. That's what I'm doing right now. In the past, I've helped startups and authors with their books and projects with launching them.
I'm working on the finishing touches for a book I've been working on for the past five years. I had a monster set of notes that I hadn't planned on making into a book, so it took longer than I thought it would.
A few years back, I was getting complacent. I was a successful entrepreneur, in the top 1% for my age. Whenever I compared myself to people similar to me, it wasn't even close. I worked more, accomplished more, produced more, did more meaningful things, was traveling the world. I read more books, did more writing, was generally healthier and more disciplined, spent my time well. I was the top 1% for my age, and even better than that if you measured me against people from similar backgrounds.
I think it's easy for people who are doing great to get complacent. You look at the general sloth and laziness and complacency of most people, you see that you're achieving greatly, and you feel like you're so far above that. You give yourself a pat on the back. "Ah, yes, I'm doing great!"
I had a shift. I don't remember the exact day, but one day I thought to myself -
"I'm not going to compare myself against people my age any more. I'm going to start comparing myself to the greatest men of all time."
Being high up in the air isn't a problem until the wind starts blowing.
Then the dance begins -- your mind rebels, and you have to do everything you can to not get sucked down into it.
The veteran climbers at The Gunks in Upstate New York have adjusted, but it's my first climb outdoors.
We wanted a 5.3 difficulty climb, but birds were nesting. So we're on a 5.6 called "High Exposure" -- a fitting description.
Adrenalin and bravado are a potent mix, and the first two-thirds of the climb were uneventful. Pleasant, a walk in the park. I'm a natural for this stuff. If I dropped 10 kilos, I could be a a pretty great climber. This is easy.
Hard work produces near magical results, but we all have an absolute ceiling on how hard we work.
People usually start thinking about working smarter once they're near that limit and getting burned out. Once the realization sets in that you can't work any harder, you've got to get smarter.
To work smart, the first thing you need to do is figure out what you're already doing.