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Guest Post: Letting Go of Your Ego Enables You to Live Without Limits

Matt Ramos kindly reached out to bring a guest post to us - he's all about exploring and breaking behavior limits, and he talks about that on his blog -http://30vanquish.com

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Letting Go of Your Ego Enables You to Live Without Limits

“As soon as you try to step outside of the behavioral limits, it gets scary and nasty and ugly real fast.” – Sebastian Marshall

So why should it be so scary, nasty, and ugly?

Become a BOSS at Public Speaking

On Kevin Espiritu

It’s been said that most people fear public speaking more than dying.  While I personally don’t share this sentiment, I can definitely remember the anxiety I felt when giving my first speeches in high school.

Why do we fear public speaking?  Sweaty palms, a constricted throat, a wavering voice.  All common symptoms to something that has a next to zero chance of hurting you physically.

A better question is, why do we fear anything?  In my opinion, all irrational fears stem from a lack of reference experience.  Imagine you are absolutely terrified of jumping out of planes – a somewhat healthy fear for the most part.  However, you want to skydive, but you can’t get over the fact that you will literally jump out of a plane, potentially to your death.

Imagine you were forced to repeatedly skydive at gunpoint.  Jump or die.  Those are your options.  Clearly you’d jump.  With each jump your fear would degrade as you gained the reference experience needed to truly evaluate the situation.  This is known as progressive desensitization.  If you click through to that Wikipedia link it seems awfully complex, but trust me – it’s not.

You don’t need to be a behavioral psychologist or therapist to overcome your personal fears.  There’s a very simple method you can use to slowly but surely hack away at your irrational fear of public speaking.  I’ve used it many times for many fears of my own.  It uses progressive desensitization to chip away at your fear bit by bit.  I like to call it the Fyramid:

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