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Guest Post: Letting Go of Your Ego Enables You to Live Without Limits

Matt Ramos kindly reached out to bring a guest post to us - he's all about exploring and breaking behavior limits, and he talks about that on his blog -http://30vanquish.com

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Letting Go of Your Ego Enables You to Live Without Limits

“As soon as you try to step outside of the behavioral limits, it gets scary and nasty and ugly real fast.” – Sebastian Marshall

So why should it be so scary, nasty, and ugly?


On Inner teacher

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” Rumi.

Me: Dear beloved teacher, what is ego? If it is a source of fear and insecurity in my life, why does it exist?

Teacher: Dear student, your ego was your first answer to the question “Who am I?” I think it was an attempt to validate your existence and quantify the value of your existence. In a way, you could say that your ego was your first step in your journey of self-discovery, your starting point. It was an identity cobbled together from the various roles, labels, and beliefs you inherited. Through time and experience, you may have come to believe that that identity is who you truly are.

You can think of the ego as your initial hypothesis and you as the scientist who has tasked herself with testing it. Throughout the day, you conduct consistency checks. True or false: Am I loving? Am I intelligent? Am I beautiful? Am I respectable? Each interaction is a new experiment that provides new information to interpret. Some of it is consistent with your current belief system and some not. Your work is to revise your hypotheses when you receive new information that does not support your initial ones.

The fear and insecurity that we feel associated with our ego does not result from the ego itself but from our resistance to revising this initial notion of ourselves. If we cling to the veracity of our initial hypotheses, then there is no point to conducting the experiments. The richness of the data will be lost to our dogma. Conflicting information will continue to perturb us over and over again, because we will continue to detect an inconsistency, but not progress any closer to our truth.

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