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Celerity

I'm listening to an autobiography of Octavian, the man who went on to become Augustus Caesar.

What's interesting from the book is that Augustus had more patience than his various rivals of the day in large scale affairs and reforms, but he moved with serious haste - celerity - when there was a situation that could be settled decisively.

Around six years ago, I started paying more attention to business and entrepreneurship and generally success and things like that. I remember coming across a lot of literature that encouraged doing things faster - especially in business. Shaving off the shipping time from 7 days to 4 days. Things like that.

Back then, I didn't understood why there was so much emphasis on speed. I thought, "Okay, obviously you wouldn't want to go too slow, but why go so fast? Why does it matter that much?"

And more recently, the answer has been clicking. It's not that getting your package 4 days from now instead of 7 makes such a big difference in all cases. Much of the time, it doesn't.

Become a BOSS at Public Speaking

On Kevin Espiritu

It’s been said that most people fear public speaking more than dying.  While I personally don’t share this sentiment, I can definitely remember the anxiety I felt when giving my first speeches in high school.

Why do we fear public speaking?  Sweaty palms, a constricted throat, a wavering voice.  All common symptoms to something that has a next to zero chance of hurting you physically.

A better question is, why do we fear anything?  In my opinion, all irrational fears stem from a lack of reference experience.  Imagine you are absolutely terrified of jumping out of planes – a somewhat healthy fear for the most part.  However, you want to skydive, but you can’t get over the fact that you will literally jump out of a plane, potentially to your death.

Imagine you were forced to repeatedly skydive at gunpoint.  Jump or die.  Those are your options.  Clearly you’d jump.  With each jump your fear would degrade as you gained the reference experience needed to truly evaluate the situation.  This is known as progressive desensitization.  If you click through to that Wikipedia link it seems awfully complex, but trust me – it’s not.

You don’t need to be a behavioral psychologist or therapist to overcome your personal fears.  There’s a very simple method you can use to slowly but surely hack away at your irrational fear of public speaking.  I’ve used it many times for many fears of my own.  It uses progressive desensitization to chip away at your fear bit by bit.  I like to call it the Fyramid:

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