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Let's Be Honest About Lying, Shall We?

A couple days ago, I told a Nigerian engineer to "Work online. Use freelancing sites. Lie about the country you’re in. [...] There’s a big stigma against Nigeria. That’s just reality, and you need to deal with it."

A reader replies -

I feel for this guy but I am surprised you recommend lying. There has to be another way. ... I have a problem with lying, period, and perhaps I’ve misunderstood Sebastian but I think he stands for straightforwardness.

Let's talk about this straightforwardly, like adults, like grown-ups.

Most people won't do that. It's inherently weird. Most people don't own up to the fact that they lie, yet almost everyone does so. A lot, actually.

Early On a Sunday Morning

On Where Pianos Roam

So, I've been thinking lately about douchebags.  Not in a literal sense mind you, as I do not have any use for such things (LOL).  The word "douchebag" has occurred to me a few times lately since I have come across certain people in my life who I might fall in a "douchebag" category. First off, it's fascinating how the use of this word for a feminine hygiene product has evolved.  A quick look into wikipedia brought forth this brief "slang" definition:Douchebag, or simply douche, is considered to be a pejorative term in North America and other English speaking countries. In some English speaking countries the term is not well known. The slang usage of the term dates back to the 1960s.[6] The term refers to a person with a variety of negative qualities, specifically arrogance and engaging in obnoxious and/or irritating actions without malicious intent. I've come across many people who fit this description, and lately, I've had to interact with them more and more. The struggle I face is how to deal with a douchebag especially when one does not have the choice to stay away from them.  For example, there might be the douchebag relative, douchebag coworker, or the douchebag "friend".  Whatever the case may be, the douche (simple put, of course) may have to be in your life for the long haul or for an extended period of time.  It can be unbearable and aggravating. Another struggle I face is  the point at which said douchebag crosses the line and appears to have "malicious intent" in their irritating actions.  This becomes a whole new level of douchebaginess!!!  What should happen next?  (If anyone has an answer for this, I am all ears.) All I have now are just some open-ended questions.  Their answers need to be tailored around each specific douche and situation.  With this in mind, I keep trying to figure out a general rule on how to deal with douchebags and seem to come up empty-handed.  Ugh. The best I can come up with is just to stay true to your own integrity.  Be clear and aware of who your true friends are.  Build a safety net around you and protect yourself from harm and from doing something to the douche that you might regret.  (It must be noted that douchebaginess can be contagious.  Don't let it get you too.) Finally, if the douchebag crosses a line, make every effort to clean up that sloppy mess from your life completely and move on. Douchebags begone!  So to speak. -g

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