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Let's Be Honest About Lying, Shall We?

A couple days ago, I told a Nigerian engineer to "Work online. Use freelancing sites. Lie about the country you’re in. [...] There’s a big stigma against Nigeria. That’s just reality, and you need to deal with it."

A reader replies -

I feel for this guy but I am surprised you recommend lying. There has to be another way. ... I have a problem with lying, period, and perhaps I’ve misunderstood Sebastian but I think he stands for straightforwardness.

Let's talk about this straightforwardly, like adults, like grown-ups.

Most people won't do that. It's inherently weird. Most people don't own up to the fact that they lie, yet almost everyone does so. A lot, actually.

A new discovery - the Zeta male

On Alan's Journey

I was researching modern masculinity after what I wrote yesterday (I'm doing it all wrong), and I discovered something fascinating. It seems that I'm not alone. (Not that I thought I was!) I discovered I'm a Zeta male, and there's more out there like me.

I used to think that there were only the alpha and beta males - that if you weren't alpha, then you must be beta - but my research has discovered there's actually much more to it than that.

Let's go through the different kinds of men out there, so that we can understand exactly what I'm talking about.

The Alpha male

This is the 'leader of the pack', the 'macho man', the 'real man'. While being a very small fraction of the population, you can usually spot them a mile away. They are arrogant, aloof, loud and obsessed about sex. They learnt early on that power and high social status lets them get the best women, so that's what drives them to achieve.

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