it seems like our emotions can't really handle magnitude -- a very embarrassing moment on an important trivial thing feels like a bigger deal and gets more thought than something quite big and high potential that's going right.
There's probably no easy answer to this -- we're hardwired to flag certain emotions and situations as more important than others. The brain's natural configuration seems to geared towards minimizing loss, holding on to what we've got, avoiding the unfamiliar and unknown, coming to answers rather than questions, and avoiding confusion.
And it can't handle magnitude. If you're reaching out for partners or distributors in business, and get 40 negative reactions (that feel bad) and one new company joining up with you, it could make a huge positive difference. But the brain can't handle it; in fact, the 40 negative reactions might each individually cut a little harder than the single win feels good.
Yet -- that's how you win, by doing things with minimal downside and shrugging off the bad feelings, while gaining high upside things. There it is, that's the way. Ain't easy, though.
What's cyclothymia? It's a mild form of the docs used to call "manic-depression," but which they re-name periodically. Cyclothymics can actually function decently well, and as such often don't know they've got it. If you cycle through highs and lows, are particularly artistic, or that describes someone you love, then read this post in full and please comment with your own experience. I'm still learning, myself.
AN INTRODUCTION TO CYCLOTHYMIA
Knowing the term "Cyclothymia" would have been very helpful to me a few years ago. This essay is plain English and, if I've done a good job, might help people who associate with a cyclothymic relate better to them, and might help a cyclothymic manage themselves better and produce better.
I'm against the "medical-ization" of life. We need medical terms, but we need to be able to explain things in plain English without labeling. Labeling, by definition, drastically simplifies.
Cyclothymia is simple at its roots, simple enough for a plain discussion without medicalization. Here's how it works for me -
My friend and fellow blogger Cam Chardukian writes in on The Downfall of Video Games:
For example it took almost no effort for me to quit watching television. I've also gone from eating the unhealthiest diet imaginable to literally not having eaten a single desert in 3-4 years and actually finding artificial/processed foods to be disgusting.
Why on the other hand have I been able to make progress in things like socializing or nofap, but ultimately been unable to achieve similar levels of success in them?