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Luck Doesn't Exist

I hear people talk about luck a lot. Straightup - luck doesn't exist.

If you believe in luck, then you believe either: (1) some people consistently defy probability, or, (2) some things aren't a result of cause and effect.

Life is a series of probability. Every day, there's a chance that a given set of things will happen. If you want to have a successful life, expose yourself to as much high-upside low-downside probability as you can. Any given thing you do might not work out, but if you expose yourself to high-upside low-downside, good things will happen. Read books, reach out to people, try to get projects working, keep trying to write and build things, keep learning new skills, keep treating people well.

If you want to fail at life, expose yourself to high-downside no-upside probability. This is short term gain at long term expense type stuff. Cigarettes. Unsecured debt for consumption. Most TV.

You'll keep getting "lucky" if you keep exposing yourself to things with upside and limited downside. If you get an amazing job or contract that you had a 1 in 1,000 chance of getting, were you lucky? No, especially not if you applied and pitched 1,000 other places. If you say, "Ok, I'm going to keep trying to get what I want until I do" you'll get it, as long as it's a positive sum game you're playing.

Narrowing the Focus

On Zen Wednesday

Greetings my friends, and a Happy Zen Wednesday to you all! The zen quote resonating with me today:

"I have been a seeker and I still am, but I stopped asking the books and the stars. I started listening to the teaching of my Soul." ~ Rumi.

In my last post I wrote about decision fatigue and my having to come to terms with the fact that, while I have the power and opportunity to do what I want, I cannot do it all at one time (at least not if I expect to do it well). This means I have some choices to make, and like Rumi says, figuring out who you are, and what you want to do, be and create in this life isn’t something you can find in a book, it’s something you have to work out on your own.

I’ll admit, I had some lofty goals for myself when I left the corporate world…I’m going to read a ton of books, meditate every day, start making more things from “scratch” like salad dressing, pickles, etc., get into amazing shape, travel (a lot), lose weight, start dancing again, learn to play the guitar, write a book, turn my blog into a website, learn to paint, get paid for consulting….and on and on. It’s an impressive list, and all things I really want to do; but I realize now that there just aren’t enough hours in the day. Plus, if I try and flip back and forth between all these different activities, I end up doing a lot of stuff half -*ssed, and don’t ever bring my full focus and attention to the task at hand.

Recognizing this, I’ve got to whittle down the goal list to something more manageable before I go insane, or end up spinning my wheels and getting nowhere. I also need to make my goals more actionable, rather than aspirational. They need to be something I can actually DO and they need to be very specific. For example, “get in amazing shape” and “lose weight” are aspirational, certainly…but they are also too vague and too big to be achievable from the get-go, which (when I don’t wake up fitter and thinner tomorrow) will just demotivate me and make me want to throw in the towel. I know this about myself, and I need to acknowledge my “all or nothing” tendencies and work them into my goal planning.

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