Issue #7 of The Get Some Victory Newsletter went out on Sunday, on the topic of making smarter New Year's Resolutions.
Stefanie Zobus weighted in with a smart reply, and kindly agreed to let me share it here -
I’d like to add one more thing to what you said. Often times, the resolutions made for the next year are not thought through properly, are quickly and thoughtlessly made, for vague reasons one sometimes doesn’t care about that much, or isn’t aware one cares much. That’s a problem. If one doesn’t think very, very carefully about what really matters, what one wants (!!) to change, and –why- it’s easy to say.. oh well, it doesn’t matter that much anyway. So things aren’t followed through. One needs to know the reasons very concretely, and the consequences of not following through. Instant gratification (gotten by quitting the resolution) is much more powerful than a vague goal stored at some far-end corner of the mind, uttered out loud once or twice during New Years.
You can get more good insights from Stefanie on her site - http://stefaniezobus.wordpress.com/
I'd like to bring attention to this ingenious comment by Stefanie Zobus. I'm adding bold on my favorite part -
It’s terribly easy to waste a day. It’s the evening, and I haven’t really done anything useful. I thought of planning the day when I got up, but in the end didn’t. I think books such as that one are really good in that they remind people their treacherous tendencies that take over when one doesn’t pay attention carefully enough. Old habits and all that. It would probably be a good idea to have something that forcefully reminds one of the whole business every day when one gets up, at least when one is still establishing new habits.
Something I thought about in that respect was that it would be useful to write some sort of ‘life manifest.’ Discussing how one wants ones’ life to be, what one wants to do in life, and very importantly: why – because when one doubts and falters, one could read that and be reminded of why one tries, and why one should keep going. You wrote something similar in that you had some post some time ago as to how many books you want to publish until then-and-then, and how much money you want to own at this or that point… which is a really good thing since it encourages and sets goals. There are so many methods and ways helping one to keep going… one just has to find and employ them. I’m afraid, the employing part is difficult. Reading a book like that brings one ‘back to earth’ I suppose, if one really cares. And if one doesn’t care, well, then things are pretty hopeless anyway.
Very smart stuff. I have some things that I live for, but I never thought to look at those when I was feeling demotivated. Great stuff. Stefanie just launched a site at http://stefaniezobus.wordpress.com/ - here's looking forward to good insights from her.
I like new years resolutions. It is like having a shower where the sins of last year are washed away. Even if you did not achieve a single resolution last year, your lizard brain is quick to point out that this was the younger, more immature version of you that just could not stick to things. That unreliable guy is nothing on this year's version. This guy sticks to things.
So, I have got twelve resolutions for this year (I wrote these down before the new year begun) so I wanted to get them out there so I could track them from here. They are:
1. Write a blog post twice a week - Yep, that's this thing. I have committed with a buddy to write every day. He has suggested that we do half an hour a day which is a little daunting but I am certainly prepared to give it a go. This is the first day of it and it is actually happening. I aim to post twice a week.
2. Read 25 books - Last year I tried to read 20 books which I did not complete. I had read 18 by early November, however life got in the way for the last two months of the year. It was annoying but I am not sure if it is the number per se, but rather that I read a lot more every year. I think if I read for an hour a day I should be able to get through 25 books. I read three in January already which are 1. The Catcher in the Rye 2. Blood Meridian and 3. Your Money or Your Life.
3. Relearn German - A few years ago I could have a basic conversation in German and write a little. Now I can barely do it at all which is something I want to remedy. This year I am going to study all the German Pimsleur levels which will hopefully get me back to having conversations in German. I will also either try to meet some local Germans or join the German speakers group in my local city.