Excellent paper --
I implemented some of the core ideas from it, and it's -- like the research says -- good for about a 20% boost.
That means, it's not magical. It won't radically reform your life. But you will handle perhaps 1 out of 5 difficult situations better, for free. It's trivially easy to implement and has no overhead cost once you learn it.
Recommended for reading ASAP if you're into habit change and modification, clarifying your own thinking, etc.
I wonder of this technique rests on willpower. Does it still work as well when willpower gets depleted as the day moves on? It might also be beneficial to include your if-then plans in your review and re-commit to them. Definitely trying this one out.
Very very interesting. So essentially, implementing an if-then process is all that's needed? Because we all know we should "ignore" the TV, the fact that we specify and say in our heads "if you look at the TV, ignore it" is all that's needed?
I feel like it would be more effective if we add a physical action to "then" of the "if-then" process. Rather than ignore, it should be "ignore it, and take a sip of water". That way you will always be conscious of the implementation.
This is definitely worth a try & who couldn't use a 20% boost? Viewing the brain as a muscle and knowing that muscles need surprise and confusion to stay strong, I wonder if Goal Shielding and Implementation Intentions would decrease in effectiveness over time.. we will see. Perhaps using the most mature response to any situation would make adhering to goals and managing inner states a lot easier.
"If, Then" statements would actually make superior EMF affirmations.
Awesome ideas - thank you.
If you don't find time for a big writing day, you are going to lose this bet! Your word count is shortening. ;)
In my heyday of writing daily for a couple years straight, there'd be long stretches of short posts... a lot of times I'll be working on one or two complex pieces and not have really good time/space for also writing longer blog posts. I actually like the to-the-point-share-something-useful style.
I like this stuff more. I feel its more inclusive, like you're sharing something with your close friends, rather than writing for a general audience.
When you're actively afraid, you know it. You can feel the fear pressing against you. Maybe you work through it and conquer it this time, or maybe you don't. But if you succeed, you know you worked through the fear. And you know if you fail, the fear beat you.
This is the type of fear you feel when you're about to do public speaking, make a cold call, ask for a raise at work, or do a difficult ski run.
And maybe sometimes you back down from whatever it is you were afraid of. It happens, and it's not the end of the world when it does. Fear winds up beating most people at least sometimes, in some domain.
Passive fear, on the other hand, is far more insidious. It's what Pressfield called "The Resistance" in The War of Art. It's a form of fear, but not one that shows itself. It's sneaky. You find the need to do some lower importance activity instead of doing your work.
Excuses abound, the important things don't get done.
It's sad that I compare myself to a toothpick whenever I think of you. Whenever I see you or even hear or read your name, my heart drops and I get weak in the knees. You could break so easily, and it's sick because I know how happy I'd be just to be in your finger tips; And some parts of me would become splinters caving into your skin.
It's sad that I often wish to be the toothpick in between your lips, making circles from the roof of your mouth, to the tip of your tongue. And how easily it would be for your teeth to snap me in half.