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"Son, as soon as someone puts their hands on you..."

I saw the article "Memoirs of a Bullied Kid" on the site Single Dad Laughing. It's written by a guy named Dan Pearce, and he seems like a hell of a guy. He's talking about raising his son, about accepting yourself, dealing with conflict, things like that. Pretty inspirational and good stuff.

The Memoirs of a Bullied Kid article must've taken a lot of guts to write, and I massively respect that. That said, I disagree with his conclusion on how to deal with violent bullies. So I want to send some praise and respect in his direction, but also some significant disagreement.

I originally wrote this as a comment for Hacker News, but it came out to about a normal post's length. Tone is more discussion site level than blog post level, but you'll get the gist of it -

"Son, as soon as someone puts their hands on you..."

This comment will be controversial, especially for North Americans and Western Europeans. I ask you to read it and think about it a moment before reacting, and comment if you disagree. I believe what I'm about to say is true, and I'm not trying to get a rise out of people - I want to fix some problems with society.

"Guiding" Your Peers

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/brenopeck/271247073/ Peck, B. (2006)

As an undergraduate one of my majors was Cinema Television Studies. Even though my concentration was Screenwriting, which requires mostly imagination and not a lot of action I was required to take a few classes in production. These classes require you to create short films and work in teams as if you are a "crew." Being considered the leper of the film tracks (a lot of people saw the screenwriting concentration as a place for people who didn't get into the design or production tracks - I just wanted to write stories) I regularly was shoved into the position of line producer, script supervisor, or production designer so I wouldn't get my hands dirty with the "real filmmaking." What these aspiring "real filmmakers" failed to realize is that these are largely managerial and supervisory roles and the production can't move forward if these areas aren't taken care of.

What I regularly dreaded was trying to figure out how to lead a group of 20-something, laid-back, Californians who I was younger than and was seen as lower status due to my choice in focus. Yet, these were my classmates - my peers who I was forced into the role of managing.

The hardest part about managing these groups was that they didn't realize that my job was to manage them, because they always pushed the jobs I got onto someone else -they never knew what it took to get things done.

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