The feedback loops on attitude are incredible.
When you're in a bad mood, cynical, and hostile, you put people off -- and it justifies that attitude, because people will react poorly to you, and top-notch people won't want to be around you.
When you're happy, complimentary, jubilant, people want to be around you and even do random nice things for you -- I was just in a particularly celebratory mood going to a cafe, greeted and complimented the owner, and she sent some free watermelon over.
It's funny - the free watermelon would help a lot more during bad days to reinvigorate hope and good feelings, but it doesn't work like that. When you're going great internally, that's when you get random great little (and big) external things.
Thanks for the reminder, Sebastian. Appreciate it as similar things happen with the teacher's mood in a classroom.
Too often positivism is confused with unfounded optimism, and even worse, negativity is confused with realism. One does not necessarily equal the other!
Question: how does this work with cyclothymics and others who experience alternating episodes of positivity and negativity? Is it possible to carry a small reminder of the good times to remind yourself that it's not the end of the world if you're in a depressive episode? Or is the watermelon in your neck of the woods really THAT good? ;p
Succintly stresses a critical condition for success - staying positive. Positivism and focusing on what can be improved turns into real things getting done and it capitalises.
I'm thrilled that Tynan is coming to you with two things -- first, he's offering a breakthrough session through GiveGetWin. It's geared around doing more of the kind of excellent work you want to do, becoming more internally focused with your emotions, having a more enjoyable life, building great habits, and producing a lot of value in the process. There's five spots, so check it out now.
Second, we have this wonderful tour-de-force interview: it starts by covering how Tynan made the shift from unfocused to focused, how to derive internal enjoyment from things, useful actionable exercises you can do right now, Tynan's method and mindset for producing creative work consistently, how to set up great habits and an excellent mental and physical work environment, and how to make blogging work and similar endeavors work for you.
Total Focus; Total Enjoyment by Tynan, as told to Sebastian Marshall
When I turned 30 and I had a minor freak out… I thought, "I'll be 40 in not long, and then 50… there's things I want to do in my life, and they're not happening at this pace."
Before that, I had a general idea of things I wanted to do and have in my life, but I went about in an unstructured way. It was good in a lot of ways. It made be a broad process, but not much depth.
Ah, you there, my Type-A friend. I'm glad you came today. Come in. What would you like? We've got coffees, teas, or clear still water perhaps? No juices at the moment, I'm afraid, I'm not having carbohydrates and it'd be fiddling with the devil to buy juice and then attempt not to drink it. The coffee is good, though, yes?
One moment. I'd like to light the fireplace. Maybe it's technically Spring, but this "Spring" in West Germany is chilly and cold and damp and grey, right down into the bones. But pardon me, I'm near veering into complaint, which is the exact opposite of the place I want to go. I'd much rather pull up by the warm fire's glow with non-carbohydrate beverage-of-choice and muse a little about philosophy and psychology with you -- and maybe it'll even be productive for us?
Ah, the warmth is nice.