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Responding to three good comments - on differentiation in business, and recharging from half-work

Has it only been a few months since we started? It feels like much longer, there's already a strong and vibrant and insightful group of people communicating here at SebastianMarshall.com - I'm really pleased and happy to have a good crew reading, commenting, emailing me, getting into good discussions and thinking.

A tricky thing for most people building a website is to nail down these questions - "Who is this website for? What do I want to do with this?"

It's easy for me. The site is for people like me who wish to do a lot of important things, to communicate, to think more clearly, to become prolific, to grow in strength and virtue. I create on the topics that are important to doing important things.

The people who this resonates with are always welcome to come visit and gain in strength and knowledge here, to build, to hopefully be inspired, to communicate, to do good things. The people who the site appeals to are its audience, and I won't be trying to persuade anyone to join us who these topics do not appeal to at the current stage in their life.

I've got a number of good comments I'd like to share. This was the second half of a comment from yesterday's post, me wondering about technology.

Not-to-do List

On Drew Millar

So a lot of times when I set goals or think about new hobbies I'd like to pick up, I struggle with how I'm going to fit it all in with my seemingly busy schedule. Over the years, I've set countless goals to do certain activities for a certain amount of time each day. Practice Dutch for 30 minutes, meditate for five, read a book a week, etc. I always have these grand plans and then try to set a goal for how long I'll spend each day doing these things.

To be honest, this type of goal setting has not worked for me at all in the long run. Maybe I stick with it for a week (this blog being an example), but I quickly lose steam. The problem is I get stressed thinking about all the additional things I'm trying to do in my already hectic day. Setting goals and planning like this is stressful in itself as you feel you have so much to do and no time to do it.

I've decided to try a new strategy and that is to create a "Not-to-do List." I know I'm not the first to try this. Of course I have my goals in life and hobbies I'm interested in picking up. Instead of focusing on how I'm going to fit them into my current day with all my current daily distractions (i.e. time wasters), I'm going to focus on eliminating the distractions and letting the chips fall where they may. If I am able to quit doing the things I know I shouldn't be doing and know are a complete waste of my time, I trust that the richer hobbies and goals I've always wanted will fill that time. It's not like I'll just go to bed or anything.

So I still have the same goals and hobbies I'd like to pick up. Some of them are starting a business, reading a bunch of books, learning Dutch, learning Ukulele, writing this blog, speaking, cooking, dancing, socializing, etc. I won't be obsessing over when I'm going to do these things though. I will be outcome independent and just have fun with all of them. Instead, I will be focusing on what I WON'T be doing.

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