Obvious advice, on the face of it, but one people mostly ignore.
If you're having an argument, conflict, serious disagreement, whatever - what are you trying to get out of it?
"What's my objective? What's most likely to get me it?"
Or, more succinctly, "What is winning?"
On a related note, you also probably shouldn't fight with people over situations that will straighten themselves out.
Take traveling. It's stressful at times, especially if you're not veteran at it. You should never, ever fight with someone over the next place you're staying/not staying/etc. It'll sort itself out. Worst-case scenario is overpaying for a room or half-sleeping at a train station or 24 hours-open place.
Okay, be careful if you're going somewhere remote and extreme and dangerous. But any remotely developed country? You'll be fine. Things where "you'll be fine" regardless of what happens next usually aren't worth fighting over. And it's never worth fighting if there's nothing to be gained.
I saw the article "Memoirs of a Bullied Kid" on the site Single Dad Laughing. It's written by a guy named Dan Pearce, and he seems like a hell of a guy. He's talking about raising his son, about accepting yourself, dealing with conflict, things like that. Pretty inspirational and good stuff.
The Memoirs of a Bullied Kid article must've taken a lot of guts to write, and I massively respect that. That said, I disagree with his conclusion on how to deal with violent bullies. So I want to send some praise and respect in his direction, but also some significant disagreement.
I originally wrote this as a comment for Hacker News, but it came out to about a normal post's length. Tone is more discussion site level than blog post level, but you'll get the gist of it -
"Son, as soon as someone puts their hands on you..."
This comment will be controversial, especially for North Americans and Western Europeans. I ask you to read it and think about it a moment before reacting, and comment if you disagree. I believe what I'm about to say is true, and I'm not trying to get a rise out of people - I want to fix some problems with society.
I'm REALLY not a patient person. And I get bored very, very easily. I'm very easily stressed out and very easily frustrated. So...perseverance, waiting, patience, trying hard...eh not really for me.
I really need to improve my patience, most of the time, I can keep generally level headed as I give my all into whatever it is that I'm trying to achieve or get, but then I'll reach a point where I just don't want to. I just snap like: what the fuck no I can't fucking do this. Fuck this!
Actually...probably with a few more swear words than that actually hehe.
Perseverance is a valuable quality in anyone, no matter what you're going to want to achieve in life, whether that's a life goal or something fun you want to do, something you want to be good at, in the end you will definitely need to push harder than you might originally have thought. Its not all too common for things to go perfectly according to plan. Life gets in the way.
When there's a setback, as there most likely will be, its important not to forget what it is that you're trying to hold on to, what it was that made you fight for it in the first place. Not the goal, the goal is never forgotten, but the feeling. What was it that made you want to try in the first place? What did it mean to you? Never forget that. Its what you fight for so..it makes the fighting easier.