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More Excerpts from Hagakure, Ch. 1

I posted "Excerpts From Hagakure, Chapter 1" a while back. The book is dense with interesting ideas. Here's some more excerpts -

When an official place is extremely busy and someone comes in thoughtlessly with some business or other, often there are people who will treat him coldly and become angry. This is not good at all. At such times, the etiquette of a samurai is to calm himself and deal with the person in a good manner. To treat a person harshly is the way of middle class lackeys.

Treat people calmly and with good manners, even when they're a little careless. "To treat a person harshly is the way of middle class lackeys" - that made me laugh.

There is something to be learned from a rainstorm. When meeting with a sudden shower, you try not to pet wet and run quickly along the road. But doing such things as passing under the eaves of houses, you still get wet. When you are resolved from the beginning, you will not be perplexed, though you still get the same soaking. This understanding extends to everything.

You get wet either way in a rainstorm, but by accepting it you stay of clear mind. What a great metaphor. Accept that you'll get wet in a rainstorm - because you will either way - and go purposefully instead of rushing.

A breakdown of the friendzone

On Huan M. Nguyen

Some tough love incoming.

Premise: It's not her fault if she associates you with friendliness.

If somebody spent time with you, and they were always friendly and warm, you'd come to expect that from them, right? Or if they were always quiet yet sarcastic and funny, you'd start describing that person as such. So if you're always friendly, warm, and nonsexual (no flirting, platonic touching), how is it her fault that she's come to see you as a friend, and not a lover? All that she's seen is friendliness and platonic companionship, no hints at intimacy.

It's in your power to get out, if you have the courage.

There are a couple solutions, ones that you'll see in this analogy:

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