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Sabotaging your friends is counter-productive

It may seem obvious that you should try to lift up your friends, but are you LIVING it every day?

Are you sometimes being a crypto-crab because you can't stand the ego blow of your friends rising up in life?

Are you 100% always cheering your friends on to achieve more? Are you actively helping them find opportunities? Are you being ever-vigilant in pointing out their follies and mistakes? Would you never for a second entertain the thought of letting your friends stagnate at a comfortable level?

Selfishness is often a good motivator in life, so what is a selfish reason to help your friends?

Remember the old adage that you are the average of your 5 closest friends?

Well, if you TRULY believe that with all your heart, doesn't that also mean that by lifting up your friends you are directly helping YOURSELF? By setting your friends up for success, are you not in fact righting the world and putting positives in the karma kickback account?

Suck on that for a good while...

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I been sucking on this for a while. Win-win for everybody! A better world! 

As a bonus, more invites to all kinds of parties in actors/business/artists/foodies circles. The selfish reason though, it makes me really happy to help people. That's one intrinsic trait that I believe people have.

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I also have that trait. But I have a tendency to associate unpleasant things (submission, zero-sum games) with altruism, perhaps as a result of some childhood conditioning. Thus, a reframe was needed.
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