"The strong manly ones in life are those who understand the meaning of the word patience. Patience means restraining one's inclinations. There are seven emotions: joy, anger, anxiety, love, grief, fear, and hate, and if a man does not give way to these he can be called patient. I am not as strong as I might be, but I have long known and practiced patience. And if my descendants wish to be as I am, they must study patience." -Tokugawa Ieyasu
In the late 1400's, the ruling Ashikaga Shogunate of Japan became weak and lost its hold over the country. A many-sided civil war broke out, thus beginning the "Sengoku Period" - known as one of the most bloody and lawless periods in Japanese history, but also an era of some incredibly most heroic leadership.
Eventually, "Three Great Unifiers" came to power and ended the conflict through victory. These three were Oda Nobugana, Hideyoshi Toyotomi, and Tokugawa Ieyasu.
In the end, Tokugawa Ieyasu won, and his family ruled Japan for the next 250 years. However, he's probably the least popular of the three great unifiers in Japan.
Nobunaga is popular for having an incredibly fierce, martial, masculine spirit. At one point, the warrior-monks of the Honganji allied themselves against Nobunaga and harried, harassed, and ambushed his armies. The Honganji provided supplies, spies, and information for Nobunaga's enemies and sometimes faced them in direct combat.
On Your Life Better
Recently, I received a private reply to my post Sometimes We Suck At Life where I gave some advice on life and living. My admission in that post that “I had it all; a good paying career, a wonderful and supportive wife, and four awesome children,” stimulated this reader to ask, respectfully, what kind of advice I would give to someone else sitting in their car having a similar breakdown who didn't have the blessings I listed.
Implicit in the question was this; If a single parent of four children, with a low-paying job that he or she hated, and who had little family support, was sitting in their car, having a similar crisis, what advice would you (I) offer them?”
In other words, it was fairly easy for me to make a change in my attitude because I had good things to fall back on. So big deal that I changed my thinking.
Four years ago I would have gone into full defensive mode with that question and the implications therein. But you know what, this reader made a great point. He made me stop to examine and ponder just what he was asking. And it is a relevant question.