First off, quick refresher - what is negotiation?
Good negotiation is about discovering things you value a low amount that the other party values a high amount, finding things they value a low amount that you value highly, and exchanging. I wrote about this in "How to Avoid Exchange-Based Relationships" -
A lot of people don’t understand good negotiating. They think it’s about getting the best price – no, no, no. Good negotiation is about figuring out what you can offer that’s worth more to the other person than you, and what they can offer that’s worth more to you than them.
it’s okay to have pure exchanges sometimes, like if you’re just buying something once. But if you can transcend that, move it beyond the exchange and into looking out for each other, that can be a beautiful thing.
On Shut Up and Take My Hand
I think everyone's had a few of these- flirtationships. When you flirt with someone almost exclusively (does that make sense?) but you're not in a relationship (whether you want to be in one or not is up to you~).
I'm not really one for flirting, its cute and funny and interesting at times but to be honest not really my thing. Either flirting with other people or them flirting with me, just don't like it. Of course I'm flattered but mmmmh back off I'm not interested. So obviously I don't make a habit of doing it either, though I should be a bit more accurate. I guess I'm ever so slightly (hehe completely) sexist since I only ever flirt with *girls* not *guys*. Don't know why, maybe since I'm generally more ummm masculine? Well, with most people anyways. So maybe that's why but I think more of a reason is that girls are more 'physical' without actually touching you.
I love contact, but only with people I know. That's pretty much the same for everyone? So it really annoys me when someone I don't know touches me - hands off! And girls aren't so quick to touch in a more...ummm...invasive (?) way? Or maybe I'm just more comfortable with girls?
I like hugs with basically everybody though I'd say girls give better hugs so I guess I prefer contact with girls as well. Off topic~~
Anyways, flirtationships. The reason I don't really like them is well, they're undefined. I don't like that. Like...you're not friends, but you're nothing more than friends either. It would be *horrible* to be stuck in a flirtationship if you actually liked that person but was unsure what the other person felt. Just to point out, flirtationships only exist when the two people are friends-good friends.