"Hey, before I go -- you're always trying these cool lifehacks and experiments. Give me one to run with."
"Okay... ever do a positivity challenge?"
"No, what's that?"
"Well, whenever you think something negative, you turn it around. So if you're thinking, 'Damn it, I missed my flight' then you can fill in, 'maybe I'll meet someone interesting because of it.' It's amazing what it does for your psychology, you never really have a long unhappy period if you do it."
I was speaking with Tynan, who is a very smart guy doing lots of interesting things. I took his advice -- this was like four days ago? -- and the results have been stellar.
Today, I was at a cafe and there was a sick kid next to me coughing. I packed up my stuff to leave (the kid was really hacking and coughing a lot, and I didn't want whatever he had) and I found myself thinking, "Damn kid coughing..." but then immediately followed it with, "So I'm heading out of the cafe earlier, can grab a shower immediately and shift into even more productive stuff."
It's really incredible. I committed to doing it for 30 days, loving the results so far.
personally prefer this website, though the organization of previous posts could expand to display previous 100 posts a page in a tile format.
back to work =)
I believe this exercise originates in Tony Robbins' "Awaken the giant within". Good book if you haven't read it, especially the stuff about emotional outcomes in goalsetting.
Whohoo! You met Tynan!
I'd love to know how that actually happened. maybe a blog each on both sites?
I've done this challenge, great for fixing your outlook.
I followed the 4hww No Complaint methodology, where I carried a bracelet on one hand, and every time I complained, I moved the bracelet to the other hand. The goal is 0 moves / day.
It helped add a tangible meaning to the experiment.
Really cool stuff indeed!
We often only notice this 'positivity' happening in hindsight. I've recently been experiencing some unforseen delays, but I end up doing some really productive things in the end. And that leads me to question whether I would have been able to pull it off had I not experienced the delays in the first place.
So yeah, the 'positivity challenge' does have its merits. Gotta learn to apply it pre-emptively rather than in hindsight.
Thanks for the post.
I've been following your blog for quite sometime now and your recent post struck a chord with me. I've found that I have no passion. Instead, I have a passion for the passionate, in the abstract. When I'm working near people who love what they do, can see their grand vision and have a pathway to the future it inspires me. From a chef to a programmer, if I meet a passionate person, I immediately want to be them.
I've made numerous blogs covering different topics. I've started a variety of different groups at university. I've even switched hobbies from martial arts to programming to yoyos. Nothing seems to stick. It seems I need a mentor of sorts to make sure I stay on track otherwise, some voice in my head is "ooh! try this! no no no! try this!"
My main question is, how to continue? How do you know when you should cut your losses or when you're just being a pansy? Help me focus Sebastian!
I know where you're at and I've got a number of thoughts.
First and foremost, did you see Miguel Hernandez's replied? I wrote "Passion Emerges From Action, Not Contemplation," I asked for Miguel's take because he's a sharp guy.
I'm thrilled that Tynan is coming to you with two things -- first, he's offering a breakthrough session through GiveGetWin. It's geared around doing more of the kind of excellent work you want to do, becoming more internally focused with your emotions, having a more enjoyable life, building great habits, and producing a lot of value in the process. There's five spots, so check it out now.
Second, we have this wonderful tour-de-force interview: it starts by covering how Tynan made the shift from unfocused to focused, how to derive internal enjoyment from things, useful actionable exercises you can do right now, Tynan's method and mindset for producing creative work consistently, how to set up great habits and an excellent mental and physical work environment, and how to make blogging work and similar endeavors work for you.
Total Focus; Total Enjoyment by Tynan, as told to Sebastian Marshall
When I turned 30 and I had a minor freak out… I thought, "I'll be 40 in not long, and then 50… there's things I want to do in my life, and they're not happening at this pace."
Before that, I had a general idea of things I wanted to do and have in my life, but I went about in an unstructured way. It was good in a lot of ways. It made be a broad process, but not much depth.