Contrast my actions in the first video to my actions in the second - the first is being friendly, which gets things done. The second is being polite, which fails and people treat you very badly.
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Another set of enjoyable videos. The first part had a bit too much repetition in it (this is a good deal, take, they hesitate, repeat) though repeating it a few times helped in bringing across the point.
Do you feel like your more aggressive business style is making things more difficult in Asia, or do you think you would encounter the same resistance here. Politeness here (Europe) is valued but I've been able to be upfront with various biz people, though I fall in the politeness trap way too often, one main thing holding me back right now I feel.
What is your experience so far, or people in your organization? Good luck with the "cement" business.
There seems to be two very different ways that the phrase "social contract" is used.
The first is an unspoken conduct agreement between two people. If you hire a great guitar player to teach you guitar lessons once a week, are you allowed to cancel? Is your instructor? How much notice? Is it okay if he's drunk or halfway-preoccupied during your lesson?
How much formality is there? If you don't do the recommended lesson from last time, how disappointed will your instructor be?
How prepared must you both be?
This is a social contract that's actually a social contract. Sure, there's edge cases - even if it's expected that both of you are always at the lesson on-time, prepared, and ready to go immediately, there's still an exemption if you have a family emergency or serious illness or whatever.
We humans are a strange bunch. Being equipped with the miracle of verbal and written communication, we get a 'pass' on something the rest of the animal kingdom relies on for survival: Speaking and listening in actions, not words.
It's taken me a long time to realize how poorly my action-related communication syncs to my verbal communication. I grew up believing it was OK to say one thing, but to do another. Many of us do. It's easy to fabricate worlds where we say one thing but do something completely contrary, and as a society few people call us out on the disparity. I'm not sure why this is. The best reason I've come up with is that few of us are tuned into "listening to actions, not words" enough to notice it.
As I've slowly become aware of the disparity, the main reason I've often failed to achieve parity between my spoken commitments and my actions is that it's a really, really hard skill to master. It takes meaningful, consistent effort to 'say as you do, and do as you say'. Life is full of small opportunities to massage the effect of one's actions with a stream of words that cover up the true meaning of the underlying actions. Our spoken (and written -- but mainly spoken, since it's more extemporaneous) communication acts as a type of elbow grease that makes interactions between humans run more smoothly -- or so we think.
Examples are plentiful and commonplace: